Success Mindset: Don’t Rush Success
I’m not sure exactly what demographic I am aiming this article at, but it is a notion that has been ruminating around in my head for some time now. It is the notion of not rushing success. Now, there are many tentacles to this beast and different vantage points. I’ll walk you through what I have lived, observed, and coached on through the years.
Success in Youth
I’d like to start with a story from my youth. When I started in the financial planning business as a young 20 something it was a hard grind, to say the least. Trying to get people who were two to three times my age to sit down and take me seriously. All I knew back then is I wanted to help people and be successful doing it.
So, one day, as you are taught, I was speaking with my cousin about anyone he knew who would be willing to talk to me. He told me he has a friend in the business who is rather successful, and he is sure he would be willing to chat with me. Eager to learn I called him up and we had a conversation that has stayed with me ever since.
I said “Bob” what advice do you have for me in this business.
He said, “Andrew success will come. I am now 40 years old, successful, and was once where you were now. I have a mortgage, 2 car payments, a wife, kids, and tons of obligations. Now don’t get me wrong I love my life right now, but let me tell you something. Some of the best years of my life were when I was your age. I slept on friend’s couches, did road trips with buddies instead of flying first class, and didn’t have a care in the world.”
Success Takes Time
Whoa heavy stuff, right? What he was telling me is a success will come, but the grass isn’t always greener. My time will come if I work hard, but don’t rush it as success takes time. Let me summarize my thoughts and observations through the years on the topic. Maybe even one day these words of wisdom (or consciousness) will be like all the Warren Buffett one-liners (haha wishful thinking buddy). I want to preface this by saying – there is no one definition of success. For this article, however, I will refer to it as financial and career success as I see so many people yearn for it.
14 Tips for Success
1. Enjoy the journey of success, not just the destination.
2. Success comes at a price, make sure you are willing to pay that price.
3. There are no real proven, legal, shortcuts. Success takes time, patience, and hard work. You may know someone who “got rich quick”, but they are not the norm, nor are they someone to model your own success against.
4. Being very successful isn’t for everyone. Some people are destined for other types of success like father or mother of the year or changing the world in other manners.
5. Once you reach success it is hard to not want more, and more of it. Make sure you are doing it for the right reasons.
6. Make sure you don’t lose yourself in the face of success. If anything let it change you for good, not for bad.
7. Don’t judge your success by others, as not only will there always be someone more successful for you, but it will diminish your own success, thus leaving you unsatisfied.
8. It is ok to be proud of your own success, just don’t let it go to your head.
9. I got this one from one of my mentors, never apologize for your success. You earned it and you deserve it.
10. The more successful you are, the more people will scrutinize you.
11. Success brings pressure, make sure you are ready for it.
12. The best way to ensure success is to bet on yourself.
13. Success and happiness are not mutually exclusive. You can absolutely have one without the other.
14. The final one and one of my favorites told to me years ago. You meet the same people on the way up, as you do on the way down. Remember that!
As Diana Ross once famously sang, “You can’t hurry success, you just have to wait, because success doesn’t come easy it’s a game of give and take.” That’s how it went right?
As I started to write this my notion was, it is a good article to send to someone on the journey to success. Whether that be your child or grandchild. As I got into the meat of writing this, it dawned on me there are some life lessons I think we all, including me, could benefit from.
Whatever stage, or part of the success journey, you are on – I hope you enjoyed this article. As always I wish you nothing but wealth, health, and happiness.
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